For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear. 1 Peter 3: 5-6
If ever a scripture could be described as counter cultural this is it. The adornment verse five is speaking of is submission to husbands that is pure and reverent. The difficulty all women have faced in making application of this passage is found at the end of verse six. It is fear. It is very important to say that this is not irrational fear. It is not neurotic, histrionic, or hormonal. No quite the contrary it is completely rational and most often based on the failure of men.
Sarah is the cited example that Peter uses, let us consider her example. Genesis chapter 20 Abraham is travelling through a dangerous territory. Instead of protecting his wife he simply hands her over to a foreign king. Abraham has her lie about their marriage so that he is not killed because of her beauty. His intent is to abandon her to that situation. It is complete cowardice on his part and it was not the first time he did it but it was the second. If God had not intervened Sarah’s fate may have lead to innumerable abuses. However, God did intervene, and that is the point. The Lord is not telling women to trust their husbands he is telling them to trust God, “do not give way to fear”
The problem for women is that the evidence of their trust in God is their submission to their husbands, and husbands often prove to be untrustworthy. A dysfunctional man comes in two basic categories both of which are bad for women. The first is to be a brute and the second is to be a coward. The brute is routinely seen in domestic violence situations, and the cowardly often fear the realities of work. Some unfortunate women have been cursed with a man that is both a brute and a coward.
Brutes and cowards are not men of God. 1 Timothy 5:8 tells us “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” and 1 Corinthians 7:15 says “But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.” My advice to women who are caught in a cycle of domestic violence is to leave. No place has the Bible said that we have to be subject to abuse in your submission to our husbands. Now domestic violence is not a Biblical reason for divorce. Only adultery is! Please listen to my wisdom for just a few sentences. Men who are batterers are but nature selfish. Selfish men are not going to go without their sexual needs being met. If the woman of God separates the brute and the coward will ultimate provide grounds for a Biblical divorce, by getting another partner.
If the situation is not dangerous, not abusive but the man wants to stay with you 1 Corinthians 7:16 says, “How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? In other words stay, submit, be Godly and let God do his work.
Believing men are called to be servants, protectors, and shepherds.
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1 Peter 3:7
As God dealt with Abraham through the years he would become a servant a protector and a shepherd. He would build up armies for the protection of this family. Intercede on behalf of cities and walk a life a faith that was pleasing to God. He learned some of these skills by listening to God’s instruction to him about his wife. For example, in the midst of a difficult situation regarding the dissolving of a blended family the Lord says to Abraham, “Listen to whatever Sarah tells you, because it is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned.” Genesis 21:12.
Abraham did so and God blessed both Isaac and Ishmael. All men, like Abraham, have their prayers heard or hindered based on their treatment of their wives. Women can grow in faith as they witness God’s work of transforming their husbands from brutes and cowards to men of God. Women have two choices in regards to men, become daughters of Sarah, or give way to fear.
If ever a scripture could be described as counter cultural this is it. The adornment verse five is speaking of is submission to husbands that is pure and reverent. The difficulty all women have faced in making application of this passage is found at the end of verse six. It is fear. It is very important to say that this is not irrational fear. It is not neurotic, histrionic, or hormonal. No quite the contrary it is completely rational and most often based on the failure of men.
Sarah is the cited example that Peter uses, let us consider her example. Genesis chapter 20 Abraham is travelling through a dangerous territory. Instead of protecting his wife he simply hands her over to a foreign king. Abraham has her lie about their marriage so that he is not killed because of her beauty. His intent is to abandon her to that situation. It is complete cowardice on his part and it was not the first time he did it but it was the second. If God had not intervened Sarah’s fate may have lead to innumerable abuses. However, God did intervene, and that is the point. The Lord is not telling women to trust their husbands he is telling them to trust God, “do not give way to fear”
The problem for women is that the evidence of their trust in God is their submission to their husbands, and husbands often prove to be untrustworthy. A dysfunctional man comes in two basic categories both of which are bad for women. The first is to be a brute and the second is to be a coward. The brute is routinely seen in domestic violence situations, and the cowardly often fear the realities of work. Some unfortunate women have been cursed with a man that is both a brute and a coward.
Brutes and cowards are not men of God. 1 Timothy 5:8 tells us “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” and 1 Corinthians 7:15 says “But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.” My advice to women who are caught in a cycle of domestic violence is to leave. No place has the Bible said that we have to be subject to abuse in your submission to our husbands. Now domestic violence is not a Biblical reason for divorce. Only adultery is! Please listen to my wisdom for just a few sentences. Men who are batterers are but nature selfish. Selfish men are not going to go without their sexual needs being met. If the woman of God separates the brute and the coward will ultimate provide grounds for a Biblical divorce, by getting another partner.
If the situation is not dangerous, not abusive but the man wants to stay with you 1 Corinthians 7:16 says, “How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? In other words stay, submit, be Godly and let God do his work.
Believing men are called to be servants, protectors, and shepherds.
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. 1 Peter 3:7
As God dealt with Abraham through the years he would become a servant a protector and a shepherd. He would build up armies for the protection of this family. Intercede on behalf of cities and walk a life a faith that was pleasing to God. He learned some of these skills by listening to God’s instruction to him about his wife. For example, in the midst of a difficult situation regarding the dissolving of a blended family the Lord says to Abraham, “Listen to whatever Sarah tells you, because it is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned.” Genesis 21:12.
Abraham did so and God blessed both Isaac and Ishmael. All men, like Abraham, have their prayers heard or hindered based on their treatment of their wives. Women can grow in faith as they witness God’s work of transforming their husbands from brutes and cowards to men of God. Women have two choices in regards to men, become daughters of Sarah, or give way to fear.